3 Magical Mantras for Living in the Present Moment | ep 126
Today's message is for anyone who struggles with being in the present moment.
Whether that is our day to day lives or an event we've been so looking forward to, our mind often goes into a spiral of judgment when things don't go as perfectly as we would like or we find ourselves reflecting back on a moment in time and realizing, “Oh my gosh, I wasn't even present. I wasn't in gratitude. I wasn't even in that moment.”
So today, I'm gonna be sharing with you 3 magical mantras, my 3 favorite affirmations that help me—and will hopefully help you—stay in the present moment. I use these affirmations all of the time and they help me get out of my spiral of judgment, shame, or blame and they also help me really savor and be in gratitude when my life is really amazing.
In this week’s podcast episode, I show you how to use these mantras by sharing the story of our big wedding day. Use the media player above or click here to tune in. And if you're new to the Wholehearted Coaching podcast, I have been talking about this wedding day for quite some time. You see, I was one of those covid brides and we have had to postpone and reschedule this wedding THREE. DAMN. TIMES.
So, the road to our wedding day has been quite a journey and we finally had our beautiful wedding with all of our family a few weeks ago and if you want to hear all about it, tune in to episode 126 of Wholehearted Coaching: The Podcast.
And below, I wanna share with you how these 3 powerful mantras really helped me stay present and how they can do the same for you (not just during a dream of a wedding day).
“This can be here, too.”
Sometimes when we are really looking forward to something and something goes wrong, we start to fixate on that thing and say, “Why is this here?”
You're planning a beautiful picnic and it starts to rain. Why is it raining today?
You plan a beautiful outfit and your shoes break. Why did my shoes break?
And so what we do is just fixate on that thing that isn't going right, and the power of the mantra, “This can be here, too,” reminds us that this kind of sucky thing can be here alongside all the other things and it doesn't dismiss or negate all the other amazing and beautiful things.
It's all part of this human experience.
So, “This can be here, too,” really reminds us to not focus so much on the thing that we're not so happy with, but embrace it. Allow it to be there alongside all of the other things.
I first heard this mantra on Tara Brach’s podcast, and if you don’t know, Tara Brach is an incredible thinker, author, and teacher. She is a psychologist and a Buddhist, and she also struggles with a chronic illness. So, on one of her podcast episodes, she was talking about when this illness started for her. How much she struggled with the pain. She loved going on walks and she decided that, despite the pain, she was gonna go on this wintertime walk.
It was a beautiful winter day and as she was walking down this wooded path, she was only focusing on the pain. How much it hurt to walk, how much her back hurt, how much discomfort she was feeling.
Then, she looked around her.
And she saw the beautiful frost on the trees. The little icicles falling from the branches. The sun beaming through the forest. She realized that all of this can be here at the same time. This pain can be here too. This beauty can be here, too. This discomfort can be here, too. This absolute gratitude can be here, too.
“This can be here, too” is such a powerful mantra affirmation because it reminds us that the human experience is about all the things that we are experiencing, all of the things at the same time.
“This is just for right now.”
This mantra is so powerful because it gives us that sense of perspective and you can use it for both amazing moments and also not so amazing moments.
For an amazing moment, “This is just for right now” reminds us to be in that moment, to be in the fun, the happiness, the joy, and the celebration. Love, who the heck knows what's gonna happen tomorrow or in the next hour or in the next minute?
And when things aren't going so well, it reminds us that this really difficult moment, it's just for right now. Sometimes when things aren't going so well in our lives, we tend to think that this is the entire book. That this moment is the entire book of our lives. We forget that sometimes this moment is just a chapter, and oftentimes when we look back, it's not even a chapter. Maybe it's a paragraph, maybe it's a sentence or a footnote in the book of your life.
“This is just for right now” gives us that beautiful perspective of time, whether things are hard or amazing, reminding us that time moves on. Time is short. Whatever we are in will pass. So either savor it or just be with it knowing that this two will change.
“This is the moment I find myself in now.”
This is a new mantra I have been practicing and I love it because it really brings me back to this present moment. In this mantra, there's no judgment.
If things are not going so awesome, it's more like, “Oh wow, okay.. This is the moment I find myself in.”
If things are going amazingly, “This is the moment I find myself in” is a statement of gratitude.
These three mantras really helped get me through my wedding day, the pre-wedding stuff, and the post-wedding stuff with so much more acceptance, peace, and groundedness. And love, I believe they will help you through any big moment, any special moment, and even in your day-to-day life.
And if you want to hear how I used this mantras in a real life experience, tune into episode 126 of Wholehearted Coaching: The Podcast and I will see you next week, love.
A quote to take with you:
“Sometimes when things aren’t going so well in our lives, we tend to think that this is the entire book of our lives.
Sometimes, this moment is just a chapter, a paragraph, maybe a sentence in the book of your life.”
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About your host, Shirin Eskandani
Hi, love! I’m Shirin.
Coach, speaker, writer, and life alchemist.
I teach you how to listen to your intuition again, tune out all the BS, and let your heart lead the way.
Because once you strengthen your inner GPS, decisions become easier, boundaries become clearer, and belly laughs become a daily thing.
A LITTLE BIT ABOUT ME:
I’m a certified life coach (accredited through the International Coach Federation)
My husband and I met on Instagram and we live in Brooklyn, NY with our plant babies
I have a masters degree in Music and was a professional opera singer for twelve years. I worked all over the world singing on stage at Carnegie Hall and the Metropolitan Opera (more on that later…).
I believe in the woo just as much as I do the work (internal and external). No amount of crystals and affirmations will make up for a lack of a healthy mindset and aligned action.
I love all the Real Housewives franchises. Don’t make me choose one… seriously, don’t.