Lucky Girl Syndrome | ep146
Have you heard of “lucky girl syndrome?”
Honestly, I had no idea what it was until I started to see it all over social media.
I was inundated by video after video of women talking about this thing called “lucky girl syndrome” and attributing it to the reason why they were manifesting amazing things in their lives- money, opportunities, partnership.
So what is lucky girl syndrome?
It is the deep belief you are the luckiest person and that everything always works out in your favor.
In order for it to work, as explained by the interwebs, it involves repeating positive affirmations like “amazing things always happen to me” or “the universe always has my back” over and over again until you believe what you are saying is true.
So pretty much, if you say enough positive affirmations and if you think positively enough then positive things will happen for you. You become a “lucky” person.
After years of being in the world of manifestation, I see lucky girl syndrome for what it is- it’s toxic positivity rebranded with a cute (ahem non-inclusive) name and edited into 30-second social-media friendly sound bites.
Now listen, not everything about lucky girl syndrome is the worst.
Manifestation is the process of shifting your beliefs. So it’s not all wrong.
But shifting our beliefs takes more than just repeating positive thoughts to ourselves every day.
Shifting our beliefs takes time. It requires deep healing and patient work. We can’t just switch what we believe overnight.
So when we tell people to just repeat affirmations and that’s going to fix their life, we’re setting them up to fail.
Lucky Girl Syndrome also doesn’t take into account privilege, trauma or systemic oppression.
It’s no surprise that so many (not all… but a lot) of the women who are talking about Lucky Girl Syndrome are white, cis-gendered, able-bodied, and more or less quite privileged folks.
When we don’t talk about privilege, we’re leaving out a big part of the equation when it comes to manifestation. We must acknowledge that certain people have access to more resources, opportunities, and connections than others.
So, are you lucky or are you just privileged?
And when we talk about belief, we also must acknowledge what a privilege it is to believe.
Yes, lucky girl syndrome is correct, manifestation is about belief. But, who gets to believe in our society?
Who gets to believe that they are worthy of amazing things?
Who gets to believe that anything is possible for them?
Belief is a privilege. It is a privilege that many folks who have experienced trauma or who come from historically marginalized communities have not experienced.
Now all of this doesn’t mean we can’t be lucky.
It just means that manifestation is far more than just repeating positive affirmations for a few days.
We all have the ability to feel like the luckiest folks ever. But this takes time, patience, and inner-work.
This Week’s Challenge
This week I want you to spot 10 things every day that prove to you how lucky you are. If the word lucky doesn't resonate, you can use the word abundant. You'll have to look at the small things and probably things you overlook most of the time.
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About your host, Shirin Eskandani
Hi, love! I’m Shirin.
Coach, speaker, writer, and life alchemist.
I teach you how to listen to your intuition again, tune out all the BS, and let your heart lead the way.
Because once you strengthen your inner GPS, decisions become easier, boundaries become clearer, and belly laughs become a daily thing.
A LITTLE BIT ABOUT ME:
I’m a certified life coach (accredited through the International Coach Federation)
My husband and I met on Instagram and we live in Brooklyn, NY with our plant babies
I have a masters degree in Music and was a professional opera singer for twelve years. I worked all over the world singing on stage at Carnegie Hall and the Metropolitan Opera (more on that later…).
I believe in the woo just as much as I do the work (internal and external). No amount of crystals and affirmations will make up for a lack of a healthy mindset and aligned action.
I love all the Real Housewives franchises. Don’t make me choose one… seriously, don’t.