By February, most people have already abandoned their New Year’s goals. Love, I don’t want that to be you.

Here’s what happens: you start the year inspired, dreaming big, and feeling unstoppable. Then reality sets in, and that tiny, sneaky word shows up: how.

How am I going to do this?
How can I figure this out?
How is this even possible?

That little word derails more dreams than we realize. It seems so innocent—just three letters, one syllable—but it can spiral us into overwhelm, fear, and self-doubt.

Here’s the truth: you’re not supposed to know every how to reach your big, audacious dreams. And you don’t have to.

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Why How Keeps You Stuck

When you dream of something big, your fear-based brain kicks in. It wants to protect you from failure, disappointment, or judgment, so it starts obsessing over how.

“How do I make this happen? What if I fail? How do I even begin?”

But love, when we let how take over, we’re asking our brains to reverse-engineer a map to a destination we’ve never been to before. That’s impossible. So instead of feeling inspired, we feel stuck, overwhelmed, and unmotivated.

The Antidote to How

When you catch yourself spiraling in the how, I want you to shift to this one powerful word: because.

Here’s why this works:

• Because connects you to your why.

• Because reminds you of your deepest intentions and desires.

• Because keeps your fire burning when things get hard.

Let’s try it:

• Instead of saying, “I want to start my own business, but how?” say, “I want to start my own business because I want to create a huge impact in my community.”

• Instead of, “How am I going to reach my goals?” say, “I want to reach my goals because they’re aligned with who I truly am.”

Do you feel that shift? Because brings you back to your purpose.

Take the Next Step

When we get stuck on how, it’s because we’re trying to focus on step 122 when we haven’t even taken step 1. Love, all you need to do is take the next step.

Here’s a little exercise to help:

1. Think of a big dream you have—a goal that feels a little scary but also exciting.

2. Instead of asking yourself how to reach it, ask yourself, “What’s my next step?”

3. Trust that the how will unfold as you walk the path.

The journey to your dreams isn’t about figuring out every detail upfront. It’s about staying connected to your why and moving forward one step at a time.

Root Into Your Why

As you’re dreaming and scheming this year, remember:

• The hows will show up, but they’re just trying to protect you.

• You don’t need to know every step right now—just the next one.

• Because is your anchor. When you feel stuck, root into your why and let it guide you.

Love, you are capable of so much more than you realize. Don’t let the how stop you. Take that next step, trust the process, and watch your path unfold in ways you never imagined.

Take a deep breath. Let go of the how. And remind yourself of your because.

You’ve got this, love.

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